Week 13 Day 1

   With the first trimester officially over it feels great to think that we are a third of the way to childbirth.

   On the other hand, there’s still 6 months to go.  And I have to say that I really miss that glass of wine or bottle of beer.  It is much harder than I thought, and I was a complete ass the other day when I found myself complaining about it to my spouse. 

   I’m doing this by choice.  She doesn’t have the choice.  So the last thing she wants to hear is my whining about it.  Joining my wife in solidarity is more than just abstaining from alcohol.  That is probably going to be the easy part when it comes right down to it.  The hard part is keeping my mouth shut.  But I can do it.

Week 12 Day 7

   Why do people feel like they are allowed to touch the belly of a pregnant woman?  Would it be appropriate if her stomach was flat?  No, that would be called harassment!

  So it’s probably not appropriate to do so when it’s round.  But for some reason, the personal bubble gets popped when the pregnancy starts to show.  I’m sure there’s a very interesting reason behind this that has something to do with cultural influences.  That doesn’t make it right.

   But don’t take my word for it:

http://jessicavalenti.com/2010/07/05/dont-touch-my-belly-and-other-pregnancy-requests/

There’s some other good stuff here that will help me to not be an ass.

Week 12 Day 6

   Busy weekend.  Way behind on blog entries.  Here’s what I did:

Before

After

   I think not letting my wife and future child fall through the holes in the deck gives me bonus points towards not being an ass.  However…

   I more than lost those points tonight at dinner after making a remark that went something like this:

“Oh, YOU look pregnant!”

   Of course, this comment came right after a remark she made about being in this in-between phase where she is just barely starting to show but not so much that it is obvious.  Therefore, someone who wouldn’t know that we are expecting might think she has just gained weight and is not, indeed, pregnant.

   So in a misguided effort to be supportive I believe I said something like in the above quote.  In fact, it might have been those exact words.  And inflections….  Oops.  My bad

  Ummm… sorry.  Total ass.  But doesn’t that new deck look pretty?!

Week 12 Day 3

  I just finished reading (most of) Husband Coached Childbirth written by Robert A. Bradley who had a bit of an ego problem.  At least that’s how it sounds in his book.  

  Don’t get me wrong.  I learned a lot and there’s plenty of good information which I’m sure will come in handy.  But it’s hard to take “The Bradley Method” seriously when the guy coined it himself using his own name.  Narcissistic much?

   I don’t know, maybe he deserves it.  Maybe I’m the one being the ass here.