... Or parenthood from the male perspective.

... Or parenthood from the male perspective.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

4 Months 6 days

   Next to the guy I saw at Target, I was not an ass today. 
After taking my daughter to my wife’s work for a breastfeeding session, Von Bebe and I went to Target to pick up a couple of things.  So I get to the store, put her in the Mei Tai and we’re off. 
   Baby in Mei Tai, diaper bag over shoulder and red Target basket in hand I head towards the baby section for more Dr. Brown’s glass bottles.  I noticed a nice looking family; 2 parents and their two kids.  The youngest was in the shopping cart while the older sister was of toddler age and staying close to mom who was pushing the cart. 
   Just a warning, I’m about to get really judgmental here which is unfair of me since I don’t know all the facts.  But this is what I saw and heard.
   The mother and two kids were near me as we were both shopping for baby stuff.  The daughter and mother were haggling with each other about what to get.  This added a new dimension to the term “whining”. (The daughter was pretty bad, too)  If I stuck around much longer, I’d swear somebody was going to mention needing power converters from Toshi Station.  (Let me know if you get that reference)
   Then I see the husband walking up and down every aisle of the store talking on his cell phone… very loudly.  Again, I don’t know the details of the phone conversation so maybe he had a good reason to wander away from his family.  Maybe the guy was dealing with a family emergency.  But his body language didn’t suggest anything so desperate.
   Then it reminded me of an article I read recently about husbands of a certain… type.  Here it is from the blog People I Want to Punch in the Throat.  Yes, this guy struck me as a douchey dad.
   I like these people.  They make me feel so much better about myself.
Meanwhile, Von Bebe has been joining us at the dinner table for a week or two, now.  She can even sit up on her own for a few second at a time, too.

Sunday, May 13, 2012

???? 4 Months +

   I’ve lost track of weeks.  So I’m going to stop trying.  Von Bebe is 4 months, 4 days old. 
   Starting today, I am a full time stay-at-home-dad (SAHD) for about 3 months.  My job rocks.  I work for a college so I already get summers off, and I was able to split my FMLA leave so I get another month off now.  This works out really great because my wife goes back full time starting tomorrow. 
   However, this puts the two of us in an awkward position.  Whereas I am excited to spend the days with my daughter, my wife is really struggling with going back full time.  For about half a second, we actually considered the option of her quitting to permanently be a stay-at-home-mom.  But this would be difficult as we’ve gotten really used to the double income.  Plus, as difficult as it is, we both really love our jobs.  The work is very satisfying and we do really cool stuff!  I don’t think either one of us would last very long as stay-at-home-parents. 
   Despite how awesome my job is, it is the nature of my work to keep me away in the evenings for 2 weeks at a time four times throughout the year.  Which is why there has been very little from me over the last week.  Those weeks were already hard.  Now that I have a daughter along with a perfect wife, they seem agonizing.  I’m already trying to figure out what I’m going to say to her when I’m working over Halloween and can’t go trick or treating with her.
   This being a father thing is difficult.  And it is impossible to do it without being as ass at one time or another.
   Oh, and I totally nicked her with nail clippers today.  Yeah.  That sucked, too.  And my wife blames me for teaching her to spit.